It’s TOTALLY ok to be the big giver that you are. Your heart is beautiful, rare and unlike anything most people have or will ever experience in this lifetime. Your heart has the power to pull hardened hearts closer, expose hidden truths and experience people in their most vulnerable and humble states. Conversely, it also makes the fall even more traumatic when you discover that everyone doesn’t love like you do. POP! Your bubbles have become suds. The bruises they leave seem to last sooo long. This is why you’ve called it a blessing AND a “curse”. This is why you do all you can to push people away now, always keeping everyone at arm’s length. This is why you suppress your natural, God-given gift to see people beyond the hurt they’ve caused you. THIS IS WHY you’ve decided to act out of character, hoping it’d show people “you aren’t the one to mess over…”
To be honest, those tactics don’t work and you actually know that.
YOU CAN’T HELP BUT TO HAVE THE FLUFFY HEART YOU HAVE AND LOVE PEOPLEANYWAY! You aren’t good at not giving two flying fudge balls – because you’d actually rather give a thousand.
Your turned back has never been a match for your open arms.
Your turned back has never been a match for your open arms. I’ve come to learn -and embrace-that THAT is actually never something to should be ashamed of. You were born with the heart God originally had in mind when He created us. His design for our existence is fully realized and embodied in you – yes you fluffy one! There’s nothing wrong with being one of the few who sticks to that blueprint in a world who’s decided to build its own definitions and expectations of love, friendship and trust.
But I get it. …sucks duh’in ‘it? You be in corners and on Instagram like “Aaaaahhhhh…Why would you give me a heart like THIS in a world like THAT, Lord??”
Unfortunately, the truth of the matter is… we do live in a world where “caring” is just about the most risky thing to do. It’s a sad reality in these times. It feels like a game of Russian roulette sometimes trying to dodge disappointment and heartbreak while living on edge enough to try and experience all that your heart naturally knows is out there to experience. RISKY BUSINESS. Caring equals hurt, which leads to the fear of being hurt, which inevitably leads to more hurt AND hurting. It’s an incredibly destructive cycle to try and avoid the WRONG way. The right way takes work we feel we shouldn’t have to do. We don’t feel we should have to discern when and when not to love carelessly because it comes so naturally to us to love openly so what do we do instead? We scratch the whole operation all-together. We try to not care, we send back one-worded text messages, take away our “LOL’s” and “I love you, goodnights” but it’s NOT easy because we aren’t built to function like that. We LIVE for heart emojis and THAT’S OK!
Based on what I’ve seen and experienced,
trying to ignore that pull to walk in love only aids in our frustration and becoming the very state of being we’ve been trying to avoid: cold-hearted, fearful and selfish.
So, how do we survive in a world that isn’t necessarily conducive to the growth of rare hearts like ours while still loving as strongly as we know how to love? How do we live with this fluffy, sunshine and rainbows, “I see the God potential in you” like heart? We guard it according to God’s Word.
Proverbs 4:23 says “Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.”
There is life in your heart and that’s a sensitive thing. This is why people gravitate towards you…including the ones who don’t have your best interest at heart. The Word is telling us that keeping a close watch is a necessary step! Don’t ignore this!
It’s not about ignoring your pull to walk in love…it’s not about not sending heart emojis. The issue isn’t other people.
The issue is that we are not knowledgeable of how to properly protect our open hearts without closing them in fear.
Getting upset and feeling hurt is a normal reaction and the word even says in Ephesians 4:26 “Be angry, and sin not.” Be upset at how you’ve been treated but DO NOT snatch the opportunity for others to see and experience the love of God through you away, in the belief that it’ll protect you from pain. It won’t.
God gives the instructions needed to maximize andeffectively utilize theses hearts. He created and intends for our compassion, optimism, forgiveness and purity to touch and reach the desensitized masses. Your heart – as soft and as fragile as it appears – is actually one of the most resilient, dangerous (in a good way) and powerful creations known to man because no matter how many times you get rebuffed…You. Will. NOT. Yield.
Matthew 5:44 says “But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you,” so it is natural to love even those who hurt you. It is not a weakness…but the Word ALSO says in Matthew 10:16, “Behold, I send you out as sheep in the midst of wolves. Therefore be wise as serpents and harmless as doves.” Your soft approach is again, not a weakness, but it must be accompanied by wisdom and discernment. ‘Wise as serpents’ means that you have to adopt that watchful eye and remain aware of your surroundings and people’s intentions. To whom much is given much is required.
Be warned that YOU WILL GET TESTED. Just because you have knowledge on how to guard your heart doesn’t mean you are now unable to get GOT. People will try you…situations will try you and everything you put your heart into will not be what God decides is for you. Disappointments will still happen but the dope part is, your understanding of how to go about conquering these challenges will change. Stress and fear won’t be your go to’s anymore. I don’t know about you but I’ll take peace and understanding through the storm ANY day over watching my back, afraid to get hurt every two minutes.
Remember…your heart wins even in battles you think you’ve lost. The Word says “…for God sees not as man sees, for man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.” 1 Samuel 16:7. Just be you. That’s all it takes to make it to the ULTIMATE finish line.