“Being taught that tears are irrelevant.
They clear sight but they don’t create better vision,
is to speak less and do more,
Grow from here and scar every picked at sore,
because scabs aren’t complete works,
you pull them off and expose old hurt,
but marks on skin, become your complexion,
Can’t peel them, only change your perception,
of who you are to be.”
-Rhema Joy (A mini piece I wrote in my notes)
That irritating scar on your knee, your elbow, the scar from your surgery..…you hate it. When people compliment you, you draw attention to it trying to beat them to the punch. You’ve gone nuts with coco butter and lemon juice trying to lighten it’s appearance. It ruins your favorite outfit, it stops you from going on dates, it hides your smile. You take it everywhere you go and not because it’s on your body, but because you’ve made it bigger than you are.
Most of us do that with life. We’ve managed to make every issue and situation in our lives bigger than we are. So much so that we don’t allow our scars to blend in, but point them out whenever we have an opportunity to move forward; to move past it. We give so much power to things that have already happened and mistakes we’ve made. We cripple opportunities before they have a chance to manifest. It’s almost as if our pasts are the guardians signing the permission slips to our futures. I don’t quite understand it but I can tell you, being one covered in blemishes, that trying to peel scars is not going to do anything but pierce healed skin and draw old blood. It will only bring up old issues that cause new infections. Why do that?
Just because your healing doesn’t look like you thought it would doesn’t mean you haven’t received it!
YOUR SCARS ARE DESIGNED TO TELL STORIES of how you “lived to tell the tale.”
I’m learning that our past issues and downfalls are only to exist in our present as stepping stones; NOT stumbling blocks. This is where we often get confused.
So…how do we let our scars be scars while letting life be life at it’s best? We welcome our scars as apart of our complexion. We accept, adapt and grow.
Accept: Your scars are your scars. THEY EXIST. They are real and what happened, happened. Acknowledging them is not a form of weakness. It is in fact, strength. They represent all that God has gotten you through. You aren’t worth less because of them. Rip the band aid off, let some air get to it and let that thing heal up. No more covering it up and wishing it wasn’t there.
Adapt: Live with the past but not in it. Let it go. If your past doesn’t have a beneficial purpose towards your future, it’s old news. It won’t do anything but frustrate you and slow down progress. Sure, it stings a bit and it may for a little while after but look how far you’ve come and will go.
Grow: You touched a fire, got burned, healed up and got a scar. Now you know that you shouldn’t touch the fire. Easy peasy. Use the past as a lesson. Stop crying over spilled milk and get a better grasp of the cup next time. USE THIS KNOWLEDGE! Toughen up. TEACH THIS KNOWLEDGE and don’t be afraid to let people see. Your scar may prevent some of their cuts that will have to become scars.
Even Jesus remained scarred. It was by the grace and power of God that He was standing before them after having been crucified. He WANTED US TO KNOW THAT.
John 20: 26 A week later his disciples were in the house again, and Thomas was with them. Though the doors were locked, Jesus came and stood among them and said, “Peace be with you!” 27 Then he said to Thomas, “Put your finger here; see my hands. Reach out your hand and put it into my side. Stop doubting and believe.”
Let people see what God has done for you. You may plant the seed for them to believe that God can do all things…even their lives.
You’re beautiful! I can’t express that enough. Your scars are beautiful because they rep strength. They mean you’ve won. I have to remind myself of that everyday and today, I’m reminding you.
Go be you…
… “And that’s why it’s my good side….”