I need to help my fellas out. Some of you are frustrated because you just really don’t know. You’re running into walls every time you go in for the approach and it breaks my liddle heart to see you guys running around like chickens with your heads cut off. Allow me to give you an exclusive look into our “girl talk” coffee conversations and shed some light on why single women of God “seem” hard to get.
Most single women of God (who walk in it) are not playing “hard to get.” Truth be told, we aren’t playing and we want to be GOT more than anything. Lol. We want it all and we actually desire to “easily give” someone everything. Most of us would jump at the opportunity to explore a lifetime with the right guy. So…you might be wondering…if this is the case and most single women of God are desiring a relationship, why are they sooo hard to get?
Here are 2 possible reasons..
1. Her expectations are unrealistic/She's shallow
-Ahhhh, I won’t even lie to you. This kind of woman IS hard to get, she's not ready. Some of us ladies expect the most while doing the “least” when it comes to getting (or wanting) a well-rounded understanding of what a genuine man of God looks like. Let’s be real and address it. A few of us are making it hard on you guys...I i get that. Some women see money, leadership in pulpits and voices behind mics as the epitome of “man of God” and completely dismiss other men serving God and producing fruit but that may not be growing on the biggest and most publicly recognized tree. Attention is a real addiction. While men who do serve on larger platforms are also great men, they do not make up the entire body and face of Christian men. She buggin'...
oh...OH...then there are some women who create “the list” and do not meet the criteria themselves. They don’t understand that God hears the desires of men AS WELL and we as women have to also be of quality. Sir, if she's into everything else that you do for her because you're a great guy but she's hesitant because you're a shade too light or an inch too short, she's not ready. Don't get your feelings hurt trying to make who you are important to someone who doesn't care to know. Don't eeeeem' be mad. She has more growing and maturing to do.
There is someone out there ready to appreciate and accept everything about you. ;)
Ladies: Men of God come in many different packages. Be careful that your "type" could be the reason you're single. This is not to say you can't have a type, but be sure that your reasons are genuine and allow room for someone to have flaws just like you do.
2. She doesn’t like you and you can’t take a hint…..or blatant “I ain’t interested.”
BRUH…persistence is not always the answer. Going after what you want after an initial or few rejections is a great thing….for dreams and career opportunities; not women who are completely uninterested. If she says “no” and shows no interest, fall back. Of course a woman who you continue to approach even after she’s expressed disinterest will seem hard to get. She’s not trying to be got by YOU man!! Stop exhausting your energy. She is not hard to get. She’s uninterested. You aren’t persistent. You’re now a stalker. #No Lol. Being an amazing man of God does not mean you are everyone’s amazing man of God. That’s cool, move on. Her preferences are her right. You aren't her type just like the women you bypassed to approach her weren't yours.
Side Note: If she changes her mind later, cross that bridge when you get there, IF you feel like it. You reserve that right to be like “nah.” It’s ok for her to miss out. Lol.. If God wills it, and there's a mutual effort, then it’ll be what it’ll be. #chill
Ladies: Don't be too mean... he's figuring it out. If he's not...then 911 is probably a necessary number to dial. #justsaying. Lol.
See reasons 3 & 4 next week!! Until then, let's have a discussion! Write in HERE and I'll post about it!